Thursday, September 29, 2011

Book Review: The Five Love Languages

My apologies for my unannounced hiatus. Its amazing what getting a girlfriend will do to the time you used to use for blogging. Which actually brings me to the topic of today's post.

I recently (five minutes ago) finished Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages.  It is a very fast read, being under 200 pages in length. I read four chapters last night and finished it tonight. Overall I liked it. Dr. Chapman is a good writer and story teller, and he tells many stories. He illustrates the five love languages primarily through real-life examples that he has encountered over the course of his counseling career.

Dr. Chapman's basic premise is that people "speak" love in different languages, and he identifies five different languages of which he says there may be multiple dialects. The five languages are: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. The theory is that if you speak your significant other's language then they will feel loved and your marriage is better off for it. It makes certain amount of sense, and appears to have enough empirical evidence lend it credence.

I found the book to be insightful and interesting, though it was definitely aimed at married couples. Dr. Chapman primarily focuses on addressing couples whose marriage has lost that lovin' feeling (with apologies to the Righteous Brothers). However, as I always appreciate the chance to learn from others mistakes, I would recommend The Five Love Languages to other bachelors (or bachelorettes) for that reason alone.

Really, I'd recommend it to anyone who is or wants to be married. Its good advice presented in a clear way. So, for those of you who are interested, here are some links:

Five Love Languages on